Do you feel ashamed and annoyed by your imperfections?
Your imperfections are part of your being. They make you more interesting, special, and unique. It’s time to accept them instead of fighting them. You can’t achieve optimal health and wellness if you’re battling inner issues about who you are.
Loving yourself, including your imperfections, doesn’t mean neglecting self-improvement goals. You can always strive to strengthen your good qualities and develop skills. All while loving the person you are in the present moment.
Try these techniques to learn to love the imperfections that help make you who you are:
1. Pay attention to what you say to yourself. There is a direct link between self-talk and your health and mental wellness. Notice if you use negative self-talk that is humiliating or demoralizing. Does your inner dialogue make you feel inferior, ashamed, or guilty? You don’t want your words to create more pain and suffering!
2. Remember that your days will vary. You may have days that make you feel amazing and on top of the world. You will also have days that make you feel defeated, sad, and tired. This roller-coaster of life is normal. The key is to avoid letting the difficult days affect you long-term. Turn your focus to positive self-talk, solutions, and taking action. Daily Affirmations like the one below are a great way to start changing your mindset from negative to positive!
3. Accept the imperfections. The key to having a fulfilling and happy life is accepting yourself. Once you acknowledge that your imperfections are a unique part of you, you can move on to loving yourself. Remind yourself that everyone feels inadequate at some point in their lives. Avoid dwelling on these facets of your life. Make up for them as best as you can and move on.
4. Let go of the comparisons. If you spend time comparing yourself to others, it’s time to stop. Your journey is unique. You’re not on the same path as others. You may grow and change quite differently, and that’s a good thing! Instead of comparing yourself to someone else, focus on yourself. Notice how you’ve grown and celebrate your accomplishments. Look forward to a bright future with your own goals.
5. Remember you’re not broken. It’s tempting to view setbacks as permanent, but you can overcome them. Challenges are a part of everyone’s life, so there isn’t something inherently wrong with you because you have obstacles. Focus on brainstorming a solution and taking action on your new approach to each issue.
6. Learn to forgive yourself and be gentler. You can change the words of your inner dialogue to words of love and support. Each time you say something negative, immediately change it to something positive, instead.
7. Eliminate the toxic people. Toxic people can make it harder for you to accept and love your imperfections. Reduce your contact with those who consistently make you feel bad about yourself. An occasional critique from a loved one or friend is normal. But, constant criticism tends to wear you down. Evaluate your relationships and focus on the ones that are healthier for you.
Celebrate your imperfections! They make you the unique person you are. Use these tips to learn to love yourself inside and out. As a result, you’ll boost your self-confidence and increase your charisma. And you’ll gain greater peace as you pursue a life you love.